Monday, May 31, 2010


(Ephesians 4:32) 32 and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you.

This is perhaps one of those million quotes about forgiveness which are there in religious books, yet we humans are so skeptic in nature to adhere to it. There is a theory amongst theologists that god had laid down all the requisite instructions to reach closer to him in the religious books. I absolutely agree with it. There are a wide range of good things that the almighty requests of the humble human beings, but forgiveness is one of the most important amongst them.

Let’s do a bit of case study. How many times in a day do we have the opportunity to forgive ourselves or others, I would suggest many. It’s in human nature to err but perhaps to forgive is not so easily forged into the human thinking. I don’t blame anybody for not being able to do so, because had we been able to forgive so easily we all would have walked one step closer to god. Even Mahatma Gandhi didn’t forgive and forget easily, he often punished himself with penance for some of his wrong deeds which he committed when he was young. My context is always coming back to one point that the one who forgives rises above everybody else.

My constant advocating of the fact that forgiveness is a great healer doesn’t mean that people should use that as an opportunity to commit as heinous crimes as possible. Nope but we can also see that forgiveness can be painful for the one who is being forgiven. I remember a childhood story where I was told that there was a son who forgave the murderer of his parents for what he did, and helped in his rehabilitation, the story ended with the murderer committing suicide and leaving a note behind saying the pain and guilt of such life was not better than death.

Relations are always in dire need of forgiveness, but alas I have seen a few which fall short in it. Anguished parents, hapless boyfriends/girlfriends, angry managers, tensed coaches, I often wonder how these people find forgiveness for others or each other.

There are some people who call it as a sign of weakness; some people think that those who don’t take revenge or punish others for a mistake are weak. Maybe, in some cases they maybe true but they need to rethink their decision, forgiveness my friend requires a trench of courage, loyalty, broad-mindedness, trust and many more things. Before we learn to forgive we need to learn a lot of other things.

I feel the world needs to forgive and forget. A lot of bloodshed, a lot of pain, a lot of mistrust could have been solved if we could just forgive. Learn to forgive my friends………..